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Is My Boyfriend Gay?

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If a straight guy wants to explore anal play, does it make him gay? Bisexual? Or just curious?

We answer a listener’s question to assure her that liking prostate play or anal play doesn’t make a man gay!

We also offer tips and strategies for making their first male anal explorations safe and pleasurable for everyone involved!

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I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few years, and so far everything has been great – in bed and otherwise. Recently, he asked me if I would try anal sex – but not on me, on him! I freaked out a little, but he is telling me that a lot of guys are into it. Is this true? Is my boyfriend gay, or maybe bi? I don’t get why he would want it. He showed me your website and I thought I’d ask, since apparently you guys are where he got the idea in the first place.

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How To Get More Erotic Prostate Massage

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A listener wants to know how to ask his reluctant wife for more prostate massage.

We share strategies for how to communicate about your desire for prostate massage, how to overcome the most common roadblocks that prevent couples from exploring prostate massage, and if all else fails, how to enjoy prostate massage as part of masturbation.

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More About Erotic Prostate Massage

Many men are hesitant to ask their partners for prostate massage. In this podcast, we talk about how to go about asking your lover for such an intimate act. We also cover the three most common roadblocks that prevent couples from enjoying prostate stimulation as part of their sex life.

Ultimately, the prostate is part of the male sexual system and it is normal, natural and healthy to want to explore this part of male sexual pleasure. So if a partner is not willing to participate, men can choose to enjoy prostate stimulation as part of their solo sex life by exploring prostate masturbation. We also discuss options for including prostate stimulation in partnered sex life using prostate toys such as the Aneros during intercourse.

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Anal Play Doesn’t Make You Gay

If I am into anal, does it make me gay? My girlfriend touched my ass and I liked it, am I gay? Does it mean I am gay if I fantasize about anal sex? I want my wife to wear a strap-on and do me in the butt, am I gay?

As sex educators and experts in anal sex and prostate massage, we get asked these questions ALL the time.

Many guys find themselves turned on by the idea of anal play,or have had a surprising yet pleasurable experience in the past But they hold back from exploring anal stimulation out of fear. Fear of a three letter word. G A Y. A lot of guys worry that if they like anal play, they must be gay. And they don’t feel gay. They like the ladies. So instead of exploring the pleasures of anal, they stay away, and miss out.

Good news guys. All men, gay and straight, have basically the same sexual system. It doesn’t matter exactly who or what turns you on, your basic anatomy is the same. So gay guys and straight guys both like oral sex for the same reason. And gay guys and straight guys like anal play for the same reason – it feels good. Your body is wired to make anal play feel arousing. Anal play allows you to reach new parts of your sexual equipment. Parts you might not even know you have, that are there, ready to bring you more pleasure, stronger orgasm and more intense arousal.

So if anal play makes you curious, go ahead, indulge in a little self-stimulation or get your partner on board for prostate massage. Anal play doesn’t define who you are anymore than a blowjob or any other kind of sex play.

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Q&A : Relaxing During Anal Penetration

Question::

Hey Charlotte and Chris!

Thank you for being so open and accommodating; with good people like you offering friendly advice, there is indeed hope. Since you offered, here is my query;

I am a male in my mid sixties (what I used to do all day, now takes me all day LOL), and I am interested in pegging. My partner and I have tried a couple of times, but I am, as yet, unable to relax sufficiently to take anything more than a modest butt plug. We tried twice with her wearing her strap-on but notwithstanding that I KNOW it will work, she notices my grimaces and stops; it simply hurts, and she cares too much! I guess I’m just too nervous?? L Do you have any “relaxation” suggestions please??

Thanks again!

Karl

Answer::

Hey Karl,

Thanks so much for being in touch!

Awesome that you are actively exploring this kind of pleasure!

Here are a few quick suggestions to help you relax and open up to bigger penetration:

First, make sure that you are fully pleasuring the external anal area before ever going inside. The ass needs to be seduced, as the internal sphincter is not under your conscious control. If you haven’t already, join our online course: Prostate Massage Mastery. You’ll learn everything you need to know to really relax the area and create tons of pleasure, which will help your body relax and open up to penetration.

Then, focus on your breathing. As she begins to penetrate you (ideally with fingers first to give you lots of pleasure as she goes in, then she can switch to a toy once you are really aroused and open!!) focus on deep relaxing breaths, trying to feel your pelvic muscles relax on each inhalation. You can even over emphasize this until your body learns to do it naturally – as you deeply inhale, push out a little on the pelvic floor muscles, then let them relax back on the exhale.

Next, try clenching around the penetration – flex your sphincters as she enters and see if that helps relax them.

Make sure there is no pain at all during penetration – going too fast, not using enough lube or pushing past resistance will create pain and shut your body down no matter how much your brain wants it!

It may take a number of sessions to relax into bigger penetration – but know that most of the arousing sensation happens in the external anal area, so there is no need to rush into pegging! Master these skills with our online course on prostate massage, You’ll even learn the ultimate way to enjoy simultaneous prostate and penis massage, to unlock tons of pleasure and invite your body to open up as you go.

Be in touch if any questions come up along your journey.

All our best,

Chris and Charlotte

The Pleasures of Pegging

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What Is Pegging?

Pegging is the erotic act of a woman wearing a strap-on dildo and anally penetrating a man.

This act, popularized first in the “Bend Over Boyfriend” video series, has been depicted in erotic art throughout history and across cultures.

The term “pegging” was coined by sex columnist Dan Savage, who recognized the surging popularity of the act and thought it was time this act had a good name. The term pegging stuck, and it is now one of the most popular fantasies for heterosexual men.

Why Does Pegging Feel Good?

Pegging can be a highly pleasurable act, for both partners. The anus is one of the most highly sensitive parts of the human body, and many people love the sensations of both external and internal anal stimulation. Some people eroticize the gender play of seeing a woman wear a strap-on and take on the penetrative role in sex. Others just love the sensation of being “filled up” and enjoy the sensations of anal penetration with a strap-on toy.

Many women love the feeling of being in charge, of switching up the roles of intercourse and watching their male lover respond to the sensations of being penetrated. When a strap-on is well fitted and positioned, the base of the dildo grinds into the clitoris and pubic bone, offering pleasurable stimulation with every thrust. There are also harness and dildo models that allow a woman to wear a vibrator, or even a double-ended dildo that allows both partners to be penetrated at the same time.

How To Get Started With Pegging

Anal penetration is intense and must be taken slowly in order to be pleasurable. If rushed, anal penetration can be painful, leading to lasting injuries. So go slow!

If you are new to anal stimulation, we highly recommend starting with your fingers to begin exploring the external sensations and the slowly proceed to penetration with just one little finger, allowing the slow relaxation and opening of the anal sphincters. Our best advice is to join our Prostate Mastery Course. This online course guides you stroke by stroke through highly pleasurable external and internal stimulation. Once you master the techniques in this course, you will be ready to proceed to penetration with a larger strap-on toy and the full pegging experience, if you so choose.

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