Pleasure Mechanics

Sex Worth Wanting

A lot of people ask us about desire – why don’t I want sex more? I used to want sex way more than I do now. What is wrong with me? What does it mean if I want sex, but not with my partner?

These are all questions worth exploring – but perhaps a more useful question is Is The Sex You Are Having Sex Worth Wanting? Here is an excerpt from our recent interview with Emily Nagoski, author of the bestselling book on female sexuality, Come As You Are:

“Many people are expecting to have high desire for whatever forms of sex are available. There is little questioning of which kinds of sex one is expected to desire. It has been a quantity-focused discourse. The reality is that those who refuse to settle are creating the foundations for having sex worth wanting” – Sex Researcher Peggy Kleinplatz

What kind of sex is worth wanting for you, at this stage of your life? What would make sex more worth wanting? How can you get specific about what you are longing for, so you can take steps towards feeling more sexually satisfied and perhaps even fulfilled!

We’re here for you as you explore your pleasures, desires and wants.

Here are some resources for you to help you make your sex worth wanting!

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“Optimal sexual experience may involve those moments of deep connection in which both lovers are psychologically and sexually accessible, engaged and responsive to whatever lies deep within.” ~ Kleinplatz, Ménard, Paquet, Paradis, Campbell, et al (2009). The components of optimal sexuality: A portrait of “great sex” Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, 18(1-2), 1-13.)

We are grateful to Kleinplatz, Ménard and their colleagues who are choosing to research Optimal Sexual Experiences. Far too much research is focused on “dysfunctions” while there has been far too little inquiry into pleasure, joy and bliss. We look forward to further conversations about Optimal Sexual Experiences. Find out more about their research here.