Question::
Hi Pleasure Mechanics,
Your books and tapes are great! Thank you so much for making them.
My girlfriend wanted me to pass along a question. I am 6’1″ and she is 5’1″. It is very easy for me to message her whole body as my hands are relatively large compared to her body, where as her hands are very small compared to mine, and she gets tired pretty quickly. Do you have any advice for how she can conserve her energy and power when she is messaging?
Many thanks!
Ed
Answer::
Hi Ed!
This is a great question, and we’ll try to make a youtube video responding to it, as I am sure it is a common one.
A few things to try right away:
Most importantly, make sure to use body weight rather than muscle to create pressure. Transfer weight into your hands as if you were doing a push-up into your lover’s body. Then maintain this pressure and glide (make sure you are using oil!) Our favorite position for in bed is one knee planted in between the thighs, the other foot just under the armpit. This allows you to transfer your body weight forward.
Two, make sure to use lots of different parts of the hands and arms to massage so no one part gets tired. Since you are a big guy, explore using her forearms to glide over your big muscle groups. Just keep an eye on the elbow, as it is so hard and pointy and can hurt if it bumps into bones. think about gliding into the muscles using the broad part of the arm from wrist to just below the elbow.
Also, make sure she is staying comfortable and not wasting energy in an uncomfortable position. Depending on your bed height, standing or kneeling by the side of the bed might be more comfortable than being in bed with you.
You can also try a massage stone like this one: Contour Stone – it is a smooth tool that helps you dig into points of tension. It can be a nice way to get some satisfying pressure while giving her hands a break.
When all else fails, oil up and rub bodies! The skin to skin contact feels amazing, and it can be a nice transition into other kinds of intimacy.
Do me a favor, once you try these techniques out a few times shoot me an email and let me know what worked best for you!
Cheers,
Chris