When you are exploring erotic bondage, you must keep a few simple safety guidelines in mind.
Above All, Trust
Never do bondage with someone you do not know and trust. When you allow someone to put you in bondage, you are putting your life in their hands. Once you are restrained, they could do anything. If you aren’t exploring with a long term trusted partner, play in a public space.
Communication
- Establish safewords as part of your negotiation before your bondage scene. Classic safewords are Red (“STOP!”) Yellow (“Slow down and check in please!”) and Green (“All good, go for it!”) but you can agree upon any set of safewords you’d like.
- Make sure your partner knows about any health issues that may impact your bondage play. Agree that you will switch positions or stop if you experience any numbness, tingling or pain.
- Communicate about what kind of bondage play you are both interested in. Do you want to be tied up and pleasured? Or put in bondage and punished? For complete guidance on exploring the wide world of kinky sex to discover what you are most interested in, check out the Kinky Sex Mastery Online Course!
Maintain Circulation and Mind The Nerves:
In general, when you have someone tied up, always be alert for tingling, numbness, or coldness. If you are restrained, and your hands or feet tingle or get numb, this usually means that the restraint is cutting off blood flow or pressing on a nerve. Tell your partner! Have your partner loosen the restraints slightly and/or move you so that the tingling goes away. If your hands or feet become cold to the touch, your circulation is being cut off. Again, loosen the restraints or reposition.
Basic Bondage Safety Rules:
- Do not leave a restrained person alone for any reason!
- Do not place anything over the nose and mouth. If you gag your partner, make sure his or her nose is not covered.
- Always be able to get out of bondage quickly:
- Keep a pair of scissors handy for quick release of bondage wraps or ropes.
- Never use a lock that requires a key
- Release the bondage immediately if there is any tingling, numbness or coldness, or if the restrained partner requests to be released.
- If you have diabetes, heart or circulatory problems, epilepsy or seizures, joint injuries or any other ailment that may be triggered, proceed with caution. When in doubt, ask your doctor if bondage is safe (they are less easily shocked than you might imagine!)