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On this tender and compassionate episode, we talk about claiming an erotic life beyond intercourse, if penetration is not available for any number of reasons, for any length of time – how can we explore, connect and enjoy a fulfilling sex life without intercourse or penetrative sex?

We hear from listeners all the time with any number of life changes that take intercourse off the menu and force the question of “what now?” – from prostate conditions to cancers of all kinds, from lichen sclerosus to vulvadynia and vaginismus, from accident to injury to illness of all kinds – and that is just the medical shortlist! Penetration can also come off the table sometimes during stages of trauma integration or as part of gender affirmative boundaries. Penetrative play sometimes is a no-go for all kinds of reasons – so what are the conversations, strategies and allies in discovering an erotic life beyond intercourse?

Pleasure Tools and Toys For Playing Without Penetration

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• Air pulsator toys can be a game changer if vibrators are too intense or overstimulate the skin
• Stroker toys can be great for solo or partnered play as a place to playfully penetrate!
• The OhNut provides a pleasurable bumper for when less depth is desirable
• Check out the Exo wearable stimulator as just one option amongst so many!

Explore a wide range of full body sensations and mental turn on to discover what feels good to you, right now

Resources To Explore & Share With Your Medical Care Team

• Pelvic Pain Perception Project
• You can locate a pelvic health physical therapist near you here or here.

• Disability Justice Resources
• 10 Principles of Disability Justice

Click here for more resources about sexuality, chronic illness and chronic pain.

We are celebrating 18 years in Pleasure Mechanics uniform! Our story began when we met in the classroom of the Sexological Bodywork training program. Many months later, we went on our first date, climbed to the top of a mountain and fell in love. Three months later, Pleasure Mechanics was born out of our mutual desire to be of erotic service to this world.

You can listen to our origin story on episode 100 of our podcast, Speaking of Sex – or by tuning into the interviews of us here.

Thanks for being part of our global community of pleasure seekers!

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Many people crave big penetration, fisting, double penetration and other forms of being “filled up” and yet often these desires go unexplored due to shame, fear or lack of knowledge and know-how.

In this podcast episode we dive deeper into our Playing With Penetration Series and discuss big penetration, fisting and other forms of maximum capacity play. We discuss how to approach this thrilling erotic experience – slowly, safely and with all the patience, reverence and care such an extreme act deserves.

Big thanks to erotic educator Ro Rose for their contribution to this week’s episode. If you would like to share your voice and wisdom with the Pleasure Mechanics community, you can record us a voicemail here.

To explore full body erotic touch techniques to relax, pleasure and arouse your lover, and to open one another up without a moment of pain,  join our Erotic Touch Mastery online courses for lifetime access to stroke-by-stroke video guides and more.

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There is so much more to penetration than the in and out stroke we all know all too well. In this rousing episode we explore all the ways to pleasure and play internally during penetration. From techniques to create all new ranges of sensation to the emotional experience of deep penetration, this episode opens up the conversation on how to have more pleasurable and profound penetrative play.

Want to explore the techniques of pleasurable penetration? Enroll in our Erotic Touch Mastery online course to gain skills and confidence in touching your lover’s entire body.

All of our courses are backed by a 30 day guarantee and lifetime access so you can explore, risk free.

Speaking Of Sex Podcast Episodes To Continue The Conversation:

• Playing With Penetration Part One: Graceful Penetration
• A New Approach To Anal Play
• How To Move During Sex
• Taking Turns In Bed: How To Practice Giving and Receiving Pleasure
• All About Crygasms

Explore toys and tools for penetration with our friends at SheVibe.com *

Here are some of our favorite toys for pleasurable penetration:

• NJoy Stainless Steel and other metal toys offer a satisfying weight and glide
• Even the smallest of plugs can create big sensation
• The Vixen Mistress is a sleek mid size toy – but it’s up to you to find your own favorite sizes and sensations!
• If penetration is feeling too deep, the OhNut provides a cushy bumper right where you need it

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Penetration is amongst many people’s favorite erotic acts, but also one that has been severely limited and disrespected by the historical scripts of intercourse. There is SO much more possible beyond repetitive in-and-out intercourse.

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Many people long for more passionate, playful and orgasmic penetration, both solo and partnered. Many people want to feel more emotional and intimate connection during penetration, but find themselves feeling distant or disconnected.

In this episode we start a conversation about getting more playful with penetration by focusing on Graceful Penetration and Active Receiving, two game-changing frameworks that transform how you can experience penetration and penetrative sex.

Graceful Penetration invites us to bring more attention and reverence to the act of penetrating the body, especially focusing on that first moment of penetration as an act of consent, respect and agency.

Active Receiving reminds us that the receptive body and hole are far from passive and invites us to bring more attention and focus to the act of receiving. We explore several techniques and practices to stay more present, active and engaged while receiving penetration.

To explore full body erotic touch techniques to relax, pleasure and arouse your lover, join our Erotic Touch Mastery online courses for lifetime access to stroke-by-stroke video guides and more.

More Speaking Of Sex Episodes To Continue The Conversation:

• How To Move During Sex
• Sex Moves – Harness The Motion Of Your Ocean
• Taking Turns In Bed: How To Practice Giving and Receiving Pleasure
• Getting Off Script