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The Pleasures of Pegging
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What Is Pegging?
Pegging is the erotic act of a woman wearing a strap-on dildo and anally penetrating a man.
This act, popularized first in the “Bend Over Boyfriend” video series, has been depicted in erotic art throughout history and across cultures.
The term “pegging” was coined by sex columnist Dan Savage, who recognized the surging popularity of the act and thought it was time this act had a good name. The term pegging stuck, and it is now one of the most popular fantasies for heterosexual men.
Why Does Pegging Feel Good?
Pegging can be a highly pleasurable act, for both partners. The anus is one of the most highly sensitive parts of the human body, and many people love the sensations of both external and internal anal stimulation. Some people eroticize the gender play of seeing a woman wear a strap-on and take on the penetrative role in sex. Others just love the sensation of being “filled up” and enjoy the sensations of anal penetration with a strap-on toy.
Many women love the feeling of being in charge, of switching up the roles of intercourse and watching their male lover respond to the sensations of being penetrated. When a strap-on is well fitted and positioned, the base of the dildo grinds into the clitoris and pubic bone, offering pleasurable stimulation with every thrust. There are also harness and dildo models that allow a woman to wear a vibrator, or even a double-ended dildo that allows both partners to be penetrated at the same time.
How To Get Started With Pegging
Anal penetration is intense and must be taken slowly in order to be pleasurable. If rushed, anal penetration can be painful, leading to lasting injuries. So go slow!
If you are new to anal stimulation, we highly recommend starting with your fingers to begin exploring the external sensations and the slowly proceed to penetration with just one little finger, allowing the slow relaxation and opening of the anal sphincters. Our best advice is to join our Prostate Mastery Course. This online course guides you stroke by stroke through highly pleasurable external and internal stimulation. Once you master the techniques in this course, you will be ready to proceed to penetration with a larger strap-on toy and the full pegging experience, if you so choose.
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G-Spot
If you feel confused about erotic anatomy, you are SO not alone! Most of us never learned this stuff in school. For a complete, friendly guided tour of erotic anatomy, we highly recommend spending some time with the brilliant *Atlas of Erotic Anatomy* from sex therapist Cyndi Darnell
What is the G-Spot?
G-spot is a common name for the female prostate, also known as the skene’s gland or the paraurethral gland.
Where is the G-Spot? How Do You Find the G-Spot?
The G-Spot refers to the female prostate, which is found surrounding the urethra just under the bladder. It is best stimulated through the vaginal wall. Slide a finger (after mastering our fingering techniques of course!) into the vagina and bend the fingertip towards the belly button or pubic bone – some describe this as a “come hither” motion. You’ll feel a change in texture in the vaginal wall, a rough or spongy area.
How Can I Best Stimulate the G-Spot?
G-Spot stimulation with fingers or a toy is a common way women experience orgasm. The G-Spot is sometimes stimulated during intercourse, but this is tricky guesswork (the penis has neither the dexterity nor the sensitivity of the fingers) and not the easiest way to explore G-spot stimulation. Once you have experienced g-spot orgasms through fingering, you’ll enjoy more sensation in this area during other types of lovemaking.
What is a G-Spot Orgasm?
Some women who experience strong g-spot sensations and female ejaculation refer to “g-spot orgasms” in reference to the specific range of sensations, physical release and emotional experience of an orgasm that is generated primarily through g-spot stimulation. Some women report g-spot orgasms being highly relaxing and often include elements of emotional release.
Why is there so much controversy around the g-spot?
The G-Spot is one of the most misunderstood areas of sexuality. It is not a mysterious spot that some women have and some women are missing – it is an anatomical structure that all women have, just like all men have a prostate.
The G-Spot and Female Ejaculation have long been subject to controversy and debate amongst sex educator and the medical profession. Thankfully, there is increasing consensus that the female prostate is the anatomical match to the male prostate and shares similar functions.
Do men have a g-spot?
G-spot usually refers to the specific part of the female sexual system, the match to the male prostate. The male p-spot, sometimes called a-spot, can be stimulated via tremendously pleasurable prostate massage. We are huge fans of prostate massage – which is how we became creators of the world’s bestselling video on prostate massage!
Ejaculation
The release of sexual fluids from the urethra, usually (but not always) during sexual excitement.
Ejaculate is a combination of several body fluids- primarily prostatic fluid, fluid from the cowper’s gland and (in men) sperm.
The contractions of the pelvic muscle help propel the ejaculate fluid out of the body.
There is a lot of fuss about ejaculation in the sex education world: men want to learn how to withhold ejaculation, and women want to learn how to ejaculate. Both goals are seen as markers of enlightenment or sophistication.
Some traditions discourage frequent ejaculation, citing the emission of precious fluids as depleting to overall health and vitality. Modern medicine, however, encourages frequent ejaculation to maintain prostate health and hormone levels.
It is our position that ejaculation is just one of the many pleasurable options for sexual climax, and is neither more nor less advanced that non-ejaculatory orgasms.
Arousal, Erection, Orgasm and Ejaculation are often considered to be a package deal for men: you can’t have one without the other. To enjoy more sexual pleasure and erotic freedom, it is essential to dismantle this myth and understand these events to be complementary experiences that may come in any combination.
Vagina
The vagina is one part of the female sexual system – the muscular opening in the female pelvis, from the external genitals (the vulva) to the cervix, the opening to the internal female reproductive system. The vagina is an important part of the female sexual system, allowing pleasurable forms of penetration with fingers, toys, penises and other body parts. Internal stimulation is a pleasurable part of many women’s sexual experience. Many women, however, do not experience orgasm through penetration alone. For maximum pleasure, pair vaginal penetration with clitoral stimulation or anal play.
The entrance to the vagina, called the entroitus, is a good place to linger. Don’t rush past this sensitive opening to get inside.
The vagina itself isn’t very sensitive, but of course internal stimulation can be highly pleasurable. You can reach the roots of the clitoris that extend back into the body. On the top wall of the vagina, towards the clitoris, you can find the female prostate, sometimes called the g-spot or skene’s gland. Stimulating this area can lead to female ejaculation.
The deepest part of the vagina is the cervix. Sometimes deep penetration can stimulate the cervix in a pleasurable way, other times it can be uncomfortable to touch this area.
And remember: the vagina is the inside sheath, the vulva is the external genitals.