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Hear what a Harvard urologist has to say about men’s sexuality after 25 years in clinical practice. Men’s sexuality is much more complex and fascinating than we are led to believe!
This episode features an excerpt from The Truth About Men and Sex by Abraham Morgentaler, MD.
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Facesitting is a very common fantasy for men (and women who have sex with women!) Facesitting is also sometimes called Queening, which is a beautiful term that draws attention to the idea that the woman is at the center of this fantasy. It is her pleasure that drives this fantasy. She is the Queen and her lover’s face is the throne!
We received the following email from a podcast listener:
Hey Pleasure Mechanics. My boyfriend found your show and we’ve been listening every chance we get. It has opened up some really amazing conversations, so we both want to thank you. Recently, after listening to a totally unrelated episode, he blurted out “How do you feel about facesitting?” My first reaction was to laugh, but then I got intrigued. I asked him what exactly he meant and he explained it has always been a huge fantasy of his to have a woman sit on his face while he gives oral sex, and he wondered if I would try it. I enjoy receiving oral, but have never tried this position. I’m open to it, and his birthday is coming up, so any tips to make this really hot for him? Thanks again! – Yvonne
First, for people who enjoy pussy (vulva, use your term of choice here!) facesitting gives the ultimate experience of being engulfed in it. Facesitting creates the feeling of being totally surrounded by the beautiful vulva. Some people take it a step further and want to be totally smothered in pussy!
Facesitting also is all about pleasuring a woman who is in control of her pleasure. To climb up and straddle your lover’s face you need a certain amount of confidence and there is nothing sexier than a confident woman who is ready to claim her pleasure! Feeling a strong, sexy woman writhe around on your face is incredibly hot.
Finally, facesitting is oral sex amped up to the next level. Giving a woman oral sex is really hot already, and when that woman is moving around with pleasure on your face, teasing you with her pussy, it is even more blissful. Facesitting means you get to feel the weight of her body and look up and see her magnificent body above you. For many people who love women, this is pure heaven!
What is fascinating about facesitting is that many of the same elements that make it so sexy for the giver are precisely what make it challenging for so many women to receive!
Being on top during sex is vulnerable enough for a lot of women, and oral sex is challenging for many women, so when you combine the two it is downright terrifying for some and awkward for others!
Facesitting means you are totally exposed. Your pussy is right there, covering your lover’s face, and there is no room for being shy or reserved about it. You need to believe that your lover is totally excited and aroused by your pussy. For so many women who have mixed feelings about their vulva and it’s taste and smell, this is a real challenge to accept. But if you can make the leap, and your lover is enthusiastically participating, facesitting can be the ultimate act of celebration. You get to have the experience of being completely proud of your pussy and ready to accept being completely worshipped as you ride your lover’s face!
Listen to the podcast (hit the “play” button at the top of the page!) for specific tips for making facesitting super exciting for both of you. In the podcast we cover:
We challenge you to experience the pleasures of facesitting. It can be challenging and vulnerable at first, but ultimately offers an incredible and liberating experience of pleasure for both of you!
Enjoy facesitting and want even more strategies and techniques to lavish her with orgasmic pleasure? Check out the Foreplay Mastery Online Course for everything you need to know to create extraordinary erotic experiences!
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Stop being so anal!
You are such a tight ass!
These phrases aren’t metaphors: we all have too much anal tension and it gets in the way of our sexual health and pleasure.
In this podcast (hit the play button at the top of the page to listen!) we explore the cause of pelvic tension and how to start getting rid of it.
Anal tension constricts blood flow to the genitals, which weakens erections in both men and women and limits the amount of orgasmic pleasure you can feel.
With a few simple practices and a shift in your attitude, you can start getting rid of excess anal tension.
Listen to the podcast to get started, and then when you are ready to master anal massage check out our Anal Sex Mastery or Prostate Massage Mastery Online Courses.
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Urban Tantra author Barbara Carrellas shares one of her favorite principles of erotic touch, The Resilient Edge of Resistance. This important concept is all about finding “just right” where the touch is neither too much nor too little. This concept can be applied to many realms of life and is an important philosophical concept for both erotic mastery and spiritual wellness.
You can find Urban Tantra on Amazon.com and visit Barbara online.
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Yoni is another word for the vulva. Many in the tantra world use it as a word for the vulva. The parallel term for the penis is “lingam.”
Yoni Massage is an erotic practice that integrates full body massage with erotic stimulation of the vulva. This technique is also called erotic massage.
In erotic massage, the recipient gets to completely relax and receive. The Giver gets the opportunity to lavish all of their attention onto the Receiver’s body. This one-way touch structure allows both people to go deeper into the experience by focusing on just giving or just receiving.
First, you create a deep relaxed state in the body through full body massage. This stage can last anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours, depending on how long you have for your experience. The more relaxed the body becomes, the more arousal you can build in the second stage of the yoni massage.
When the Recipient is ready, you can start integrating erotic touch into your massage. Start broadly and slowly focus in. Full guidance and stroke-by-stroke demonstrations are available in our Foreplay Mastery Course.
As you build up erotic stimulation, continue to massage the full body. It is the combination of full body massage with erotic touch that makes this experience so unique.
In some teaching traditions, yoni massage focuses heavily on stimulation of the g-spot. We believe that the g-spot area is just one part of the entire female sexual system, and you can include it as much or as little each time you practice yoni massage. Many people actually prefer focusing on clitoral stimulation instead, or in addition to, g-spot stimulation.
You can end a yoni massage by building up arousal to the point of orgasm and then letting her bask in the orgasmic afterglow. Or, you can choose to stop whenever she simply feels “done” and just relax together. This is your erotic experience, so you get to decide what a satisfying ending looks like.
Get stroke-by-stroke guidance in the art of yoni massage with our Foreplay Mastery Online Course. You’ll learn how to warm her up, build high levels of arousal and explore multiple orgasms and beyond!
