Pleasure Mechanics

Slow Down For Better Sex

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Slow Down!

That’s some of the best sex advice we can give you. But of course – it is simple but not always easy.

Slowing down in the erotic realm is an essential step to have better sex and enjoy your authentic sexuality.

Our sex culture is FAST – fast hookups, fast arousal, fast intercourse, fast orgasms. We all rush through life in general, and sadly this includes rushing through sex.

Rushing into sex, rushing through sex, refusing to slow down and enjoy the sexual encounter: these are all outcomes of our culture of sexual scarcity, shame and fear. Sometimes we rush through sex as if we are committing a crime and need to flee as soon as possible. Sometimes we rush as if we are children masturbating in secret, afraid of getting caught. Sometimes we rush so we don’t have to feel all of our feelings. Sometimes we rush just to get it over with, cause the sex isn’t that great anyway.

Sigh.
We can do better.

In this episode, we talk about all the different levels of slowing down sex – from seducing your partner to how you touch their entire body – and how slowing down creates the opportunity to not only feel way more pleasure, but also clear some of the anxiety and shame that burdens you.

 

 

This episode is sponsored by our friends at GetMaude.com – where you can create a customized kit of modern sex essentials. Use the code PLEASURE for 15% off your order

Bisexual and Already Married

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What happens when you realize that you are bisexual – after you are already happily married?

In this episode we explore the complex emotional terrain of coming out to yourself as bisexual – when you are already married.

Thanks to GetMaude.com for sponsoring this episode and making independent sex podcasting possible. Build your own kit of modern sex essentials at GetMaude.com and use the code PLEASURE for 15% off your order.

Sex Love Liberation with Ev’Yan Whitney

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Hear how one woman broke through her sexual repression and began discovering her authentic sexual expression.

Ev’yan Whitney, sexuality coach and founder of SexLoveLiberation.com, generously shares her journey into sexual freedom on her beautiful website and podcast. In this episode, Ev’yan talks about what she learned growing up in a strict religious upbringing and how she used the safe container of her new marriage to make peace with herself as a sexual woman. Ev’yan speaks about the importance of professional support, the inspiration of literature and the tenderness of healing sexual wounds while in a long term relationship.

Ev’yan offers valuable wisdom about the first steps towards sexual liberation – rooting out shame and trauma, paying attention to sensuality and reclaiming an authentic sexual expression.

We originally discovered Ev’yan’s beautiful work on Instagram, and was immediately drawn to the presence she shares through her work. Ev’yan boldly and generously shares about her sexual unfolding – through beautiful writing and her podcast, The Sexually Liberated Woman. Her words are rich and wise, gentle but powerful, and she has a particular gift in speaking to what she calls “pre-erotic” women, those women whose sexualities have not yet been given a safe space to emerge.  Ev’yan creates a beautiful invitation for us all to deepen our erotic and sensual embodiment.

 

 

This episode is sponsored by our friends at GetMaude.com (use the code PLEASURE for 15% off your order!) the folks at Maude have created a beautiful line of modern sex essentials – high quality organic lube, condoms, sleek vibes and more. It’s all made of the highest quality body safe materials, presented in  beautifully designed packaging and shipped discreetly to your door. 

How To Enjoy Ethical Porn

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Do you get maximum enjoyment out of your porn habit, or is it compromised by not-so-great porn, feelings of shame and guilt or distaste at what pops up during your porn sessions?

Most adults use porn – some rarely and others daily – but far too many of us settle for free “tube” sites that dump a very mixed bag of pornography into our lives. Great porn is celebratory, exciting and a pleasure to consume. Porn made without care or concern can be just the opposite.

In this podcast episode, we talk about how to enjoy more ethical porn – and why this makes all the difference not only for the porn performers but for you as a porn consumer. As social sexual beings, what we watch MATTERS and has a great impact on our own erotic experience – here’s how to treat yourself to joyful, thrilling and arousing and ethical porn!

Thanks to Jiz Lee for all their wisdom around this topic. Read more here: Ethical Porn Starts When We Pay For It

Resources Mentioned:

BrightDesire.com – our HIGHEST recommendation for a membership that unlocks beautiful, intelligent, joyful videos and more!

Crash Pad Series – queer, reverent, inclusive indie porn

Erika Lust’s X Confessions – eurochic, explicit and enticing

 

 

 

 

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