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Female Ejaculation and the G Spot

Female Ejaculation has only recently come out of the closet. While first studied by physicians in the 17th century, and documented in Sexology papers ever since, the knowledge and acceptance of female ejaculation was omitted from Western medical practice until very recently.

Meanwhile, many women have been confused and distressed about their own ejaculatory response- in the passions of sex they feel themselves (or their partners notice) a gush of fluid coming from the urethra. Without knowledge of female ejaculation, the natural assumption is that the fluid is urine. Often this triggers a shame response over having “wet the bed,” but perhaps while cleaning those sheets the women noticed that it didn’t smell like urine, and was not yellow like urine.

Just imagine if men did not know about ejaculation, and there was a cultural silence about it. Young boys would be terrified of masturbation, men would be flocking to the doctors for a diagnosis on the strange white substance coming from their urethra. The case of Female Ejaculation and the Female Prostate is a classic example of how medical “knowledge” can define our daily lives. Without an official category for this sexual response, and with most doctors to this day having received no training on the subject, individual women are led to believe that they are doing something wrong or peeing the bed, when in reality their body is experiencing a very natural response to stimulation.

In recent years, sex educators have been on a mission to spread information and normalize female ejaculation and the female prostate. Several books, films and websites now feature female ejaculation. The result is more and more women having the aha! moment of realizing all those times they felt the urge to urinate during arousal or all those times they gushed was actually an experience of female ejaculation.

The Male Prostate vs. The Female Prostate

The male prostate is a gland under the bladder, around the urethra.
The female prostate is a gland under the bladder, around the urethra.

The male prostate produces hormones.
The female prostate produces hormones.

The male prostate, during arousal, produces fluid. This fluid, along with semen, travels down the urethra and out of the body.
The female prostate, during arousal, produces fluid. This fluid travels down the urethra and out of the body.

The male prostate responds to direct and indirect stimulation, and can create strong sexual sensations and powerful orgasms.
The female prostate responds to direct and indirect stimulation, and can create strong sexual sensations and powerful orgasms.

Male ejaculate can either be expelled from the body or absorbed back into the body.
Female ejaculate can either be expelled from the body or absorbed back into the body.

Pelvic Anatomy

Get to know your pelvis! The pelvis is the foundation of the body, and the core of your sexual system. This article is a brief introduction to your pelvic anatomy.

Standing up, put your hands on your hips and find the bones. These bones are the sides of your pelvis. If you trace those bones around to your back, you’ll find the arch of your iliac crest and then the two bones will meet in the middle at a triangular bone at the base of your spine. This is the sacrum, the back bone of your pelvis. Beneath the sacrum is a tiny tip of bones called the coccyx- where our tails would be if we humans still had them! Moving back around to the front, you can find the pubic bone which meets in the middle, underneath your belly button and above your genitals. This entire structure is your pelvis- the muscular and structural foundation of your entire body. The spine anchors in the pelvis, as do the legs.

The nerve pathways that create sensation in the entire pelvis and genitals run from the brain, down the spine, through the holes in the sacrum and into the musculature of the pelvis. Nerve fibers work like electrical signals- translating information along a channel to the brain where it is interpreted.

The word “pelvis” in latin means “bowl” – and indeed the bones of the pelvis are shaped like a flexible bowl. The bones of the bowl are home to a complex sling of muscles, nerve endings, vital organs and major blood vessels and arteries.

You may have heard about the PC muscles. What most people know as the pubococcygeal muscles is a web of musculature that extends from the pubis to the coccyx like a sling. The anal sphincters are the rear part of the pelvic floor, the genitals are in the front of the pelvic floor. The anal sphincters are directly connected to the frontal pelvic floor, and the muscles around the genitals by the perineum. The perineum is the center of the figure 8 of the pelvic muscles, and a major nexus of the nerve endings. There are also major muscular attachments at the ischial tuberosities (the sitz bones) and sacrum. The gluteals, or butt muscles, are a major part of the pelvic system and play a major role in sexual pleasure. The muscles of the pelvis are constantly at work, even when you are sitting still!

Strengthening the pelvic muscles is essential for sexual health and pleasure. A daily practice of pelvic clenches strengthens the muscles that contract during orgasm, leading to stronger orgasms. For more about strengthening the muscles of the pelvic floor, see the articles below, where we outline a series of practices for both men and women:

Pelvic Exercises for Men
Pelvic Exercises for Women

Breathing for Sexual Enhancement

Breath is an essential sexual skill. We breath without thinking much about it our entire lives- and yet most of us breath only enough to survive.

Deliberate deep breathing can help the body relax, flood the bloodstream with fresh oxygen, create more sensation in the body and fuel your erotic fire.

It is no surprise that breathing is a central skill not only in all sexual traditions around the world, but also in most devotional religious traditions, and for professional singers and athletes.

Learning to breath more fully allows us to live more fully, and experience new kinds of relaxation and sensation in the body.

Breathing is also a way to develop your ability to pay attention and be present in each moment. When someone learns to meditate, often the breath is the first tool of mindfulness.

When you are paying attention to your breath, you are paying attention to what is happening in that very moment in your body, and you can begin cultivating the ability to clear the mind clutter and notice physical sensations more fully.

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Lubricants

BEST Choice: Organic Lubricant!

Your very best choice for sexual health is an organic, all natural lubricant! Most lubricants contain toxic chemicals that can irritate the sensitive tissues of both the male and female genitals. Skip the icky stuff and go for an all natural organic lube. Our favorite? The delicious lube from Good Clean Love.

Water Based Lubricants

Water based lubricants are a great choice. They are easy to find and inexpensive. Many brands, however, have potentially harmful chemicals.

Look for brands containing natural ingredients, and make sure your lubricant is paraben-free and glycerin-free!

Glycerin is a sweetener added to lube that can promote yeast infections. Glycerin-free lubes are a better choice for women and men alike.

Silicone Based Lubricants

Silicone lubricants are an excellent choice for anal play. Silicone lubes stay slick for a very long time and don’t get sticky like water based lubricant.

Silicone lubes are safe for use with latex condoms, but should not be used with silicone toys (like dildos or butt plugs) – when in doubt, use a water based lube.

Oil Based Lubricants:

Commercially available oil based lubricant, like Vaseline or any kind of lotion, should not be used for sex play. These products contain harsh chemicals that will irritate the sensitive tissues of the genitals and anus.

Natural oils like coconut oil, almond oil or even olive oil have been used for centuries as sexual lubricant, and are much safer than lotions – but any product containing oil of any kind is NOT latex compatible – oils degrade latex and cause condom failure.

Smartballs

Over the past five years I have purchased about twenty sets of Smartballs from Fun Factory. They last forever, and I’m not much of a collector, so why so many? I love Smartballs so much they are my go-to gift for weddings, baby showers and birthdays. I bought both my sisters Smartballs and even got a pair for my mother!

Smartballs are a ben wa ball style toy, and we think they are the best on the market. Smartballs are weighted balls covered in the highest quality silicone, made to insert vaginally for vaginal exercise and stimulation. They come in a one ball or two ball model and, although they are on the larger side, most women find them comfortable once fully inserted.

With the balls inserted, your vaginal and pelvic muscles immediately go to work, flexing around the balls and responding to the slight rolling sensation of the weights inside the outer ball. You might feel a wide range of sensations, from the “i gotta pee” sensation to a highly arousing stimulation.

Wear your Smartballs for five minutes at a time to begin, and work your way up to an hour or more. You can even wear them as you run your errands, go on a date or relax at home. They are an easy way to tone and stimulate your pelvic muscles, leading to a healthier sexual system, stronger arousal and better orgasms.

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