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Breathing for Sexual Enhancement

Breath is an essential sexual skill. We breath without thinking much about it our entire lives- and yet most of us breath only enough to survive.

Deliberate deep breathing can help the body relax, flood the bloodstream with fresh oxygen, create more sensation in the body and fuel your erotic fire.

It is no surprise that breathing is a central skill not only in all sexual traditions around the world, but also in most devotional religious traditions, and for professional singers and athletes.

Learning to breath more fully allows us to live more fully, and experience new kinds of relaxation and sensation in the body.

Breathing is also a way to develop your ability to pay attention and be present in each moment. When someone learns to meditate, often the breath is the first tool of mindfulness.

When you are paying attention to your breath, you are paying attention to what is happening in that very moment in your body, and you can begin cultivating the ability to clear the mind clutter and notice physical sensations more fully.

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Lubricants

BEST Choice: Organic Lubricant!

Your very best choice for sexual health is an organic, all natural lubricant! Most lubricants contain toxic chemicals that can irritate the sensitive tissues of both the male and female genitals. Skip the icky stuff and go for an all natural organic lube. Our favorite? The delicious lube from Good Clean Love.

Water Based Lubricants

Water based lubricants are a great choice. They are easy to find and inexpensive. Many brands, however, have potentially harmful chemicals.

Look for brands containing natural ingredients, and make sure your lubricant is paraben-free and glycerin-free!

Glycerin is a sweetener added to lube that can promote yeast infections. Glycerin-free lubes are a better choice for women and men alike.

Silicone Based Lubricants

Silicone lubricants are an excellent choice for anal play. Silicone lubes stay slick for a very long time and don’t get sticky like water based lubricant.

Silicone lubes are safe for use with latex condoms, but should not be used with silicone toys (like dildos or butt plugs) – when in doubt, use a water based lube.

Oil Based Lubricants:

Commercially available oil based lubricant, like Vaseline or any kind of lotion, should not be used for sex play. These products contain harsh chemicals that will irritate the sensitive tissues of the genitals and anus.

Natural oils like coconut oil, almond oil or even olive oil have been used for centuries as sexual lubricant, and are much safer than lotions – but any product containing oil of any kind is NOT latex compatible – oils degrade latex and cause condom failure.

Smartballs

Over the past five years I have purchased about twenty sets of Smartballs from Fun Factory. They last forever, and I’m not much of a collector, so why so many? I love Smartballs so much they are my go-to gift for weddings, baby showers and birthdays. I bought both my sisters Smartballs and even got a pair for my mother!

Smartballs are a ben wa ball style toy, and we think they are the best on the market. Smartballs are weighted balls covered in the highest quality silicone, made to insert vaginally for vaginal exercise and stimulation. They come in a one ball or two ball model and, although they are on the larger side, most women find them comfortable once fully inserted.

With the balls inserted, your vaginal and pelvic muscles immediately go to work, flexing around the balls and responding to the slight rolling sensation of the weights inside the outer ball. You might feel a wide range of sensations, from the “i gotta pee” sensation to a highly arousing stimulation.

Wear your Smartballs for five minutes at a time to begin, and work your way up to an hour or more. You can even wear them as you run your errands, go on a date or relax at home. They are an easy way to tone and stimulate your pelvic muscles, leading to a healthier sexual system, stronger arousal and better orgasms.

This page may contain affiliate links, allowing our friends in the sex toy biz to support PleasureMechanics.com. We only write about and link to products that we have personally reviewed and would use ourselves! For men’s sex toys, we work with fabulous male testers and our expertise of the male body!

Penis Sleeves

Penis sleeves are a kind of sex toy for men, designed to fit snugly around the penis and add texture and intensity to stimulation as the shaft is stroked through the sleeve.

Tenga Eggs are the most popular penis sleeve on the market, with good reason. The fabulous design includes variety of textures gives men a huge range of options, and finding your favorite is a fun masturbation project. The closed-end design creates a suction effect around the head of the penis, adding to the heightened pleasure of masturbation with this toy.

Tenga Eggs are sold as disposable, but they can easily be washed out and used multiple times. At under $10 each they are a great deal for your solo sex life.

Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa (sometimes spelled Ben Wah, or even benwa) balls are a sexual tool used to tone the vaginal muscles and enhance female sexual function. Small balls, often hollow with a weighted ball bearing inside, are inserted and held in the vagina. They can be actively manipulated to stimulate and tone the vaginal walls, or simply worn as a woman goes about her day.

Use of weighted balls, eggs and barbells for vaginal toning dates back hundreds of years and is found across many cultures around the world. Sometimes they are called loveballs, smartballs, vaginal balls or kegel balls.

Traditional Ben Wa balls are loose metal balls, often very small and slippery. These are perectly safe to use but many women find them too small to feel and they can slip out if you stand up. We don’t love the traditional style Ben Wa balls for this reason. Sex toys are going modern and there are much better versions of Ben Wa balls available today!

Our Favorite Ben Wa Ball Style Toys:

SmartBalls by Fun Factory : These bright toys are made of the highest quality silicone, come in single and dual ball models and are perfectly weighted.