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How To Give A Handjob

Ready to learn how to give a handjob that he’ll never forget? First, forget everything you think you know about handjobs.

Forget the image of holding on and pumping up and down in the same frenzied motion over and over again. We’re not quite sure when this one-stroke model for touching men became the norm, but throw it out the window – men deserve a lot more finesse than that.

Touch your man with creativity and curiosity, and use your hands to create the widest range of sensation possible.
As trained massage therapists and body-based sex educators, we are experts in erotic touch, and to help you out we have created a stroke-by-stroke video guide that demonstrates a huge range of handjob techniques for maximum pleasure and arousal.

The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Handjobs was first published on DVD in 2007. Now, you’ll find the video and much more in our Foreplay Mastery Course.

Learn a few new skills and you’ll soon discover that your hands can create a huge range of sensations. You can create a full and satisfying sexual experience with just your hands if you know how.

Tips on How To Give A Handjob To Blow His Mind!

Use lubricant to allow your hands to slip and slide over his sensitive skin. Lube decreases friction and increases sensation.

Use more pressure than you thought possible. Many women are scared of hurting the penis and use light, tentative pressure. Try using a very firm grip, using your hands to create a tight squeeze along the entire length of his shaft. Then explore the full range of pressure, from feather light to very deep.

Use your hands in a variety of ways – from a full hand grasp to a single finger glide. The more variety you create, the more sensation he will feel and your touch will stay fresh and exciting.

Play with rhythm and speed to create variety. Think of it as music – steady rhythm with variety and unexpected flourishes creates more pleasure.

Think of the stimulation as a journey, not a race to the finish. Don’t just find one stroke that works and try to finish as quickly as possible. Build up his arousal, then back off. Tease him. Create peaks and valleys in his pleasure. This will make his climax even more intense.

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You’ll learn strokes to create a wide range of sensations, prolong his arousal and give him stronger orgasms. Go way beyond the classic jerk-off stroke – surprise him with all of the different ways you stimulate his most sensitive parts.

Give Your Man a Hand

Your hands are sensitive, dexterous and capable of giving your man intense pleasure and powerful climaxes.

With a little skill and confidence, you can fully satisfy your man and leave him feeling saturated with pleasure. Many women enjoy having the option of fully satisfying their lover without being penetrated.

Let’s face it, sometimes the idea of intercourse or oral sex is just a little too much. But you may be turned-on enough to kiss, cuddle and give your man a fabulous orgasm with your hands!

Today’s challenge is to add this skill to your sexual repertoire, and then notice the benefits of bringing manual stimulation back into your bedroom. We’re going to help you out by showing you that touching a man goes way beyond the “one stroke wonder” kind of touch you might have used back in the day.

Once you give yourself permission to explore new ways of touching him, begin noticing his reactions. Pay exquisite attention to his responses. How does he respond when you touch ever so lightly around the head of his penis? Do faster or slower strokes peak his interest? Can you tell when he is really into it? What happens to his breathing? Does he make sounds to let you know when it feels good? By paying attention you’ll gain valuable information about your lover’s patterns of arousal and in no time you’ll be proficient in giving him pleasure.

Using your hands is also the best way to explore prolonging his arousal and delaying ejaculation. Your hands can quickly respond to feedback, allowing you to back off on stimulation before he reaches the point of “no return” and climaxes. After you gain confidence using your hands to pleasure him, begin playing with prolonging his pleasure. Work together to notice and communicate as he gets closer to ejaculation, and play with backing off and building up as many times as you can before he simply can’t wait any longer and wants to experience his climax.

With a little skill and a lot of confidence, using your hands to pleasure your man can add a whole new dimension to your sex life. Many women find this to be an exciting and sexy addition, as they take control and are able to pleasure their man in a whole new way. All too often we forget about our hands as the amazing erotic tools they are designed to be – we are built to give and receive pleasure and touch is our primary way of communicating with our lover. We invite you to explore the pleasurable potential of making love to your man – with just your hands!

Handjob Techniques Videos

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The Joy of Sex on Handjobs

One of the great things about life as a professional sex educator is my reading list. Ever since I was 8 years old, I have spent hours a day reading about sex. It is one of my great fascinations and intellectual challenges, to learn about the complicated universe of human sexuality.

Today, I was revisiting an old classic, The New Joy of Sex. This cookbook style sex manual first appeared in 1972 and has been part of the sex education library ever since.

The passage on handjobs and fingering, which they call “HandWork” reminded me why our core guides are focused on the skill of pleasuring your lover with your hands.

“A couple who can masturbate each other really skillfully can do anything else they like. Handwork is not a substitute for vaginal intercourse but something quite different, giving a different kind of orgasm, and the orgasm one induces oneself is different again from orgasm induced by a partner.

In full intercourse it is a preparation to stiffen the man, or to give the woman one or more preliminary peaks before insertion. After intercourse, it is the natural lead in to a further round.”

(From the 1991 edition of The Joy of Sex)

The book goes on to describe “rolling the penis like pastry between the palms of two hands” and many other techniques. Want to learn masterful ways of touching your partner for maximum pleasure? Check out our online course, Foreplay Mastery and let us show you, stroke by stroke!

Kegels for Men Exercises for Pelvic Strength

Most people think Kegel exercises are just for women. Men can also benefit from strengthening the muscles of the pelvic floor: some men report major increase in erectile function and more powerful orgasms. Remember, during orgasm the muscles of the pelvic floor contract – so stronger muscles means stronger contractions, and stronger contractions mean stronger orgasm. Makes sense, right?

Below you’ll find a few Kegel exercises for men to get you started.

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The musculature of the pelvic floor can be toned and strengthened with exercise. Clenches are the easiest way to tone your pelvic muscles. Start with slow easy clenches, rhythmically tightening and relaxing the muscles around your genitals and anus. You should feel or see your penis lift with each clench and fall with each release. Try to do a set of five clenches a few times a day. When this feels easy, move on to sets of ten, fifteen, or more clenches at a time.

After mastering easy, slow clenches, begin adding in sets of faster clenches. Flutter your pelvic floor muscles. Pay attention to the sensations created through these clenches- can you feel the blood rushing to your genitals? Do you get erect? What do you notice while doing these clenches? A regular practice of pelvic clenches can have dramatic benefits. These clenches can be done anywhere at anytime- try them next time you are getting aroused or during a boring business meeting and notice the results!

Over time, the musculature of your pelvic floor will strengthen and you will be able to work each muscle within the group independently. Try working the left or right side, or work from back to front and see how many muscle actions you can isolate.

Kegel Exercise For Men #1: Clench and Release

Practicing clenches is easier lying down or standing, rather than sitting up with your weight on the pelvic floor. Begin by lying in a comfortable position, and bring your attention to the pelvic floor. Try and locate the muscles of the pelvic floor by clenching – clench your butt muscles first, then your anal sphincters, then move forward into the muscles around the genitals. Your penis should lift or bob with each clench. See if you can feel these distinct regions of the pelvic musculature. If you can not, do not worry. What you feel will change wildly over time. Just keep exploring what you do feel. Clench and release, clench and release. Check in and make sure you are releasing completely. Just like the breath, each part of this cycle is equally important. Over time, this action of clenching and releasing will relax patterns of chronic tension or constriction in these muscles. Begin with sets of 10 clenches. Then take a break. Over time, add more repetitions. You can also experiment with holding each clench a bit longer.

Kegel Exercise For Men #2: Quick Flutter

Once you’ve located the major pelvic floor muscles and begun to feel comfortable with the clench and release practice, try a quick flutter clench. Very quickly, contract and release the muscles in the pelvis. Try ten quick flutters, and over time work up to sets of fifty or more. Many find the quick flutter to be quite tiring. This clench helps train the muscles to contract rapidly, which is part of the natural orgasm response when aroused. By creating this clench deliberately, you are strengthening this response and have the opportunity to pay attention to the effect of creating more movement and blood flow in this muscle group.

Kegel Exercise For Men #3: Gradual Clench

This is a very powerful strengthening clench, and also helps to release chronic tension. You can practice the gradual clench focusing just on the muscles around the anus. Many have found this practice to be helpful in relief of hemorrhoids, which are caused when severe tension pushes blood vessels through the sensitive tissues around the anus. Try these clenches in sets of one or two to begin, then add a few more as you build strength.

First, to get a sense of the movement, try it in your hand. Make a fist, squeeze as hard as you can. Try to squeeze even harder. You may find the second squeeze difficult. Now, shake it out. Make a fist again, squeeze as hard as you can. Now relax it just a little bit, not all the way, and squeeze again. Relax just a little, then squeeze even harder. Repeat until you feel like you can’t clench any deeper. Now relax your hand completely.

Now try this with your anal sphincter muscles. Clench the sphincters a little bit, then relax a little. Clench deeper, then relax. Clench deeper yet. Make sure at the end of each set to relax your sphincter muscles completely – do not hold onto any extra tension. Notice if you feel any heat, energy or arousal in your body while practicing these gradual clenches.