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What Is Pegging?
Pegging is the erotic act of a woman wearing a strap-on dildo and anally penetrating a man.
This act, popularized first in the “Bend Over Boyfriend” video series, has been depicted in erotic art throughout history and across cultures.
The term “pegging” was coined by sex columnist Dan Savage, who recognized the surging popularity of the act and thought it was time this act had a good name. The term pegging stuck, and it is now one of the most popular fantasies for heterosexual men.
Pegging can be a highly pleasurable act, for both partners. The anus is one of the most highly sensitive parts of the human body, and many people love the sensations of both external and internal anal stimulation. Some people eroticize the gender play of seeing a woman wear a strap-on and take on the penetrative role in sex. Others just love the sensation of being “filled up” and enjoy the sensations of anal penetration with a strap-on toy.
Many women love the feeling of being in charge, of switching up the roles of intercourse and watching their male lover respond to the sensations of being penetrated. When a strap-on is well fitted and positioned, the base of the dildo grinds into the clitoris and pubic bone, offering pleasurable stimulation with every thrust. There are also harness and dildo models that allow a woman to wear a vibrator, or even a double-ended dildo that allows both partners to be penetrated at the same time.
Anal penetration is intense and must be taken slowly in order to be pleasurable. If rushed, anal penetration can be painful, leading to lasting injuries. So go slow!
If you are new to anal stimulation, we highly recommend starting with your fingers to begin exploring the external sensations and the slowly proceed to penetration with just one little finger, allowing the slow relaxation and opening of the anal sphincters. Our best advice is to join our Prostate Mastery Course. This online course guides you stroke by stroke through highly pleasurable external and internal stimulation. Once you master the techniques in this course, you will be ready to proceed to penetration with a larger strap-on toy and the full pegging experience, if you so choose.
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Fantasies and Desires are two very different categories, and it is essential to make a clear distinction so you can freely Explore Your Fantasies & Name Your Desires
Just like we can enjoy action movies without any real desire to be in an exploding building, the realm of sexual fantasy is where anything is possible and we are free to explore. Meanwhile, your Desires are what you actually want more of in real life!
Fantasy Vs. Desire
Fantasy: the faculty or activity of imagining things, esp. things that are impossible or improbable.
Desire: a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen.
Something changes from a fantasy to a desire as soon as you want to make it real. Pleasures may change from one category to the other over your lifetime.
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Fantasy is the world of pure erotic imagination. The human body responds to erotic thoughts the same way it responds to erotic stimulation from outside. So the power of fantasy can be used to name your specific desires, tap into more arousal and discover the patterns of your turn-on.
Some people fantasize about past sexual experiences, remembering peak erotic experiences.
Other fantasies center on who we wish we could be, or might have been, projecting an idealized self into an idealized world.
Other fantasies are about what we would like to experience if anything was possible and there were no real world limitations where mythical creatures and supernatural beings with powers can transport us beyond the daily grind.
Fantasy can run the gamut from simple pleasures to elaborate scenarios, can be mild or wild, based on experiences we want to have or those we would never even consider enacting. Fantasy is just that – the magical place in your mind where everything and anything is possible.
Noticing the fabric of your fantasies can give you important information about your own arousal. You can choose to make some of your fantasies come true, or leave them as fantasy only pleasures, private worlds of pleasure in your mind.