For curious minds, here is an image of Chris’ back tattoos, based on the anatomy of the male and female pelvic floor muscles. Charlotte delights in telling people about Chris’ “penis tattoo” or “tattoo of two assholes” so here they are. Chris got the tattoos out of a deep commitment to the beauty and power of human genital anatomy.
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Sex writer and editor Rachel Kramer Bussel joins us on our podcast, Speaking of Sex, to discuss sex culture, fantasy and the transformational power of erotica.
We believe erotica can be a powerful way to explore your fantasies, discover new desires and inspire your erotic imagination.
She is the editor of over 40 volumes of erotica, and most recently Best Sex Writing 2013.
Best Sex Writing 2013 is a collection of non-fiction essays about sexuality and sex culture. Edited by the prolific sex writer and editor Rachel Kramer Bussel, this book is a must-read for anyone who is curious about sexuality as a culture force. This book welcomes the reader into dozens of sex communities, subcultures and identities. It will make you think about sexuality in a broader and expanded way, and provoke meaningful conversations.
The essays in this book cover some issues that are both of the moment and perennial issues in sex culture: condoms in porn use, prostitution laws and polyamory. Other chapters reveal the intersection of the highly personal and political forces of sexuality: a submissive shares about her experience as a wife and mother, a gay man allows you inside the cruising zones of anonymous sex, you get to hear about a polyamorous disaster on Fire Island.
If you want to stimulate your largest sex organ – your brain – grab a copy of this book and let yourself explore the spectrum of human sexual experience. You’ll find it as enriching as it is exciting.
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Is my penis too big? Is my penis too small? My penis is curved, is that normal? How can I make my penis bigger? Help my penis is shrinking!
These are just some of the emails we get every single day. Men have so much anxiety about their penis size, shape and appearance – and all of that anxiety creates a big distraction from the real goal of becoming a better lover and experiencing more pleasure.
In this episode, we tackle the penis size question from many angles, addressing all the questions that men worry about when it comes to their penis size.
If you’ve ever had a worry about penis size, this is a must-listen episode!
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Sometimes, spicing things up in a long term relationship isn’t so easy.
What happens when your requests to try something new in the bedroom are met with hostility and anger?
In this episode, we offer some advice to a listener who wants to try new things and improve her sex life, but when she asks for what she wants her husband becomes defensive.
We suggest some erotic communication aikido to transform the situation into an opportunity for more connection and intimacy, while keeping her own boundaries intact and respecting her needs and desires.
There are hundreds of high quality sex toys and tools available to experiment with.
Toys can help you create more pleasure, both solo and with your lover.
These vibrators, dildos, butt toys and prostate toys can help you stimulate new parts of your sexual anatomy, experience a wider range of sensations and play with sexuality in new ways.
Check out sites like SheVibe.com to find extensive buyer’s guides for toys that add more fun and variety to your sex life.
But remember – toys are supplements to high-quality touch, not a replacement for learning sexual techniques!
DO purchase toys from a reputable company that selects products based on quality and craftsmanship
DON’T purchase sex toys that are intended as “gag gifts” or “novelties”
DO spend time thinking about what kinds of sensation you want more of, and buy toys that will enhance your experience
DON’T buy toys just because they look good – ultimately, you want a toy collection that will help you have better sex, not pretty accessories.
DON’T buy toys on Amazon! The site is full of cheap knock-offs and the site doesn’t control quality. Buy from a site like SheVibe.com instead and you’ll get the real deal.
DO start small when purchasing dildos, butt plugs or anything insertable – you can always get larger sizes and work your way up
DO buy high-quality silicone toys if your budget permits. Silicone is smoother and healthier for your body than latex or vinyl.
DO consider glass dildos and wands – they won’t break and can provide a nice, weighty, smooth surface.
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