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There is one question that can be a total mood killer in bed.
When women hear this question, they suddenly feel like they need to switch into caretaker mode and protect his fragile ego.
This question can drain all the eroticism out of the experience.
Guys, eliminate this question: Does that feel ok?
While you are at it, purge all of these questions: Is that ok? Does that feel good? Was that good for you?
While seemingly harmless, these questions drive women crazy – and not in a good way. They are bids for validation. They are asking women to tell men “yes, you are good enough” and “yes, you are man enough” in veiled language. These questions are rarely really about women’s pleasure – they are covering up sexual insecurity.
But we know how important erotic communication is – so what are better questions to ask? How can men replace caretaking with confidence?
In this episode, we talk all about the RIGHT questions to ask during sex, and how to develop the skills that will bring you authentic sexual confidence.