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There are many reasons we crave sexual submission.
Being submissive means you get to be taken on a journey by a trusted partner who attends to your desires and needs.
Submission is an act of trust. It is turning over your body and your well being into someone else’s care.
Sexual submission can be both thrilling and scary. But it can also be empowering.
Submission is a negative term in our power hungry culture. To be submissive is to be weak. In the world of Kinky Sex, just the opposite is true. Being submissive is an honored role, a respected part of the circuit that kinky sex requires. Submission during sex means trusting your partner enough to temporarily relinquish control and be guided on a journey.
The key is that you pre-negotiate what will happen during kinky sex. You get bold enough to lay out all of your desires – as well as your boundaries – so you can relax and let go.
We submit to other people’s expertise all the time: doctors, pilots, bus drivers, attorneys. These roles have high barriers to entry, with years of study and rigorous testing allowing only the most committed and talented into the profession. We trust these credentials and they give us enough confidence to surrender. No one would board a plane if just anyone could be a pilot.
In Kinky Sex, you and your partner get to experiment with who is the dominant partner and who is submissive. We highly recommend you switch it up frequently so you both can experience the pleasures of both roles!
Submission doesn’t mean weakness when it comes to kinky sex. There are many ways to be submissive. In the Kinky Sex Mastery Course we explore 6 different styles of submission so you can play with the whole range.
The most common image of a sexual submissive is a vulnerable submissive grovelling at the feet of a dominant, being whipped for the dominant’s pleasure. This is certainly one possibility amongst an infinite galaxy of options! But a submissive could also be in the role of “proud beauty” displaying their erotic talents for praise and worship. Or they might be totally relaxed and going on a journey of sensations. Ultimately, being submissive during kinky sex means “being done” in exactly the ways you are craving.
We hear from tons of people who want to experience sexual submission for one very common reason: surrender. We all live busy lives full of responsibilities. Sexual submission can be a short (but very effective!) vacation from our everyday lives. When you submit you get the chance to totally relax and receive. You don’t have to make any decisions or choices, because you’ve already negotiated what will happen and you’ve left all of the control in your partner’s capable hands. You simply have to be. How often do you get that opportunity?
Sexual submission also gives us the opportunity to experience emotions that aren’t always available or allowed in everyday adult lives. Through sexual submission you can temporarily feel like:
- a vulnerable child
- an insatiable slut
- a bratty princess
- a noble warrior
- a struggling captive
- a highly desired prize
To recap, here are just a few of the incredible benefits of explore sexual submission:
- profound relaxation
- deep surrender
- feeling desired
- feeling powerful
- transcending limits