Fantasies and Desires are two very different categories, and it is essential to make a clear distinction so you can freely Explore Your Fantasies & Name Your Desires
Just like we can enjoy action movies without any real desire to be in an exploding building, the realm of sexual fantasy is where anything is possible and we are free to explore. Meanwhile, your Desires are what you actually want more of in real life!
Fantasy Vs. Desire
Fantasy: the faculty or activity of imagining things, esp. things that are impossible or improbable.
Desire: a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen.
Something changes from a fantasy to a desire as soon as you want to make it real. Pleasures may change from one category to the other over your lifetime.
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Fantasy is the world of pure erotic imagination. The human body responds to erotic thoughts the same way it responds to erotic stimulation from outside. So the power of fantasy can be used to name your specific desires, tap into more arousal and discover the patterns of your turn-on.
Some people fantasize about past sexual experiences, remembering peak erotic experiences.
Other fantasies center on who we wish we could be, or might have been, projecting an idealized self into an idealized world.
Other fantasies are about what we would like to experience if anything was possible and there were no real world limitations where mythical creatures and supernatural beings with powers can transport us beyond the daily grind.
Fantasy can run the gamut from simple pleasures to elaborate scenarios, can be mild or wild, based on experiences we want to have or those we would never even consider enacting. Fantasy is just that – the magical place in your mind where everything and anything is possible.
Noticing the fabric of your fantasies can give you important information about your own arousal. You can choose to make some of your fantasies come true, or leave them as fantasy only pleasures, private worlds of pleasure in your mind.